What’s Your Label? (1)
Labelling and Being Labelled is more than just “words”, it ended up become what or who we believed we are. Most of us must be aware how powerful “words” could be and become, and how everything we “label” are eventually become the energy we labelled them to be.
Common example is when we called our paw kid as “Fat”, somehow after months or years, they ended up become this fat dog/cat. Since I was a kid, I was being labelled as “stupid”, Unintelligent, nor Diligent, disobedient, rebellious, fat and such by my mom and I grew up becoming one.
When we were a kid, we were such pure being that whatever names and labelled thrown to us, we would take it as a compliment, somehow. And well, slowly and surely, we became that label itself, our attitudes, ways of thinking and behave like so. I grew up believing how stupid I am until recently (37 Years), I took the label off from my own “stupid and disobedient”. I have always been an outspoken kid, I’m very strongly speaking up how I feel and the reason why I was disobedient because she gave me “order” as if I was her servant. But my dad, the way he told me to do things was different; it was rather a statement yet given me a choice.
I thought I was stupid, only to realize that, it isn’t easy for me to digest Mathematics or anything that gets to do with number because My mom is excelled with Numbers and Calculations. My interest never was in there but since I had failed Maths (I had to bribe to pass) and my only strength were Sport, English, History, Social Science and Culture, Management, Writing an Essay (Communication), Music and Economic. She wanted me to be more into Mathematic, Biology, Those kind of area and based on that, she included me as someone who is “not smart”. Because I wasn’t become the “image of the daughter”, she wished me to be.
I know I am slow in understanding things especially common things because there’re things which not make sense in my mind, in my heart. It took me almost 11 years to differentiate which one is Left and Right Hand. I always thought my right as left and left as right. And Trust me, on the year I was born, the environment I grew up, being Left-handed was wrong and disgrace. I was pushed to be Right Handed and each time I used my left for eating, I would got hit. They said “left hand is a dirty hand”. I know this is just small matter, but I grew up pushing myself being right handed, while My left hand is the first hand I responded to especially Eating. But not now, I’m using both and comfortable in both.
See, from those label given by the closed ones, label that is also given by society also influenced the way we believed in ourself. These labeling also could come from your own friendship circle and this label could be given through Jokes yet it’s intentionally given. If it wasn't intentional, the label wouldn’t be repeated few or hundreds of times. So make sure the label or the name / nickname You give to Yourself, Loved Ones and Even Your Pet are empowering. Okay! My Paw Kid, His name is Jose Fernando Taylor, but often I called Him Prince and He is behaving like a Prince and Very Polite.
What are the labels given to you by others and by Yourself? and how influentials these labels are into your life?
I know at times, we are also giving ourself Label because there are just that moment in our life, where we don’t like ourself, our ways of thinking, behaviors and such. But the intensity of the word are either destruct or empower You. The more we are “used” with the labels, the more we are the label itself.
The Negative Labels given to you AREN’T TRUE. I know we have been taking them Personally, but Have You Ever Thought that the Labels came from The Person’s Anger because They aren’t Able to Control/Overpowering You and You don’t Meet Their Own Expectations and Imaginations?
Yes, Especially when the labels came from our Closest Family Members. Most of our parents have forgotten that we are an Individual Being, that we are not the same as them, our creativities, interests, dislikes, the ways we think, the way we talk; they are mainly forgot that we are not their duplicate, well-wishers and more over, we are free being. They have high expectations, imaginations and wishes on how they want us to be, the image they want us to portrays, the career or achievements or goals, we need to have. Basically, they are “arranging” everything in our life , controlling all the actions and programs, to achieve their expectations and goals. And the moment, we behave in such a way they don’t expect, we get that label. Because their life was also Series of Products their Parents too.
Most of our parents behaved exactly like how their parents taught them. They are just the product of their own family and society. And they are recreating, continuing the Production of The Products to us. I was being called as Rebellious and Disobedient Kid not because I didn’t listen to her, but from my mom’s family (esp. her), none of her sisters and children had ever against the parents’s commands and wills. They are all called so obedient while if I didn’t feel like doing so, I would opinionated myself. Especially after I went to Australia for few years to study, whenever I replied to what my mom said, she would even be more harsh to me. While the truth? all I wanted was to have discussion, to be listened, to understand why she wanted or told me to do so. I’m the kind of person who would do things once I understand Why it has to be done, what’s the benefit of doing so. Be reasonable to me and give me a bit of time to process the information. However, that label stays with me even until now from both families but didn’t bother me anymore because I know, I am obedient once I understand The Whys For my Mind to Understand and I’ll follow if My Heart Agrees on so.
Whether you realized or not, but our parents may never truly knows us (only knew us a bit) because they have stopped learning about us. And The more we are learning about ourself, we should also start to review back about the Labels which are given to us. Even if Your Friends are calling you names, you should reconsider that now. Have you becoming the cat-calling’s name they given to you?
